the truth about self-examination

Self-examination does not necessarily lead to life balance or acceptance from others — it leads to greater freedom and authenticity. Without self-examination … … we seek comfort over greatness … safety over risk … reassurance over authenticity … the predictable over the unknown … the well worn path over forging our own Self-examination is a…

the trap of conditional love

These days I’m thinking a lot about the conditions we put on love. When my boys hug each other, I smile and offer a loving gaze. When they are less kind {hitting} my smile and loving gaze quickly disappear — I withdraw the visual expression of my love. My boys quickly adapt to receive more…

100 ways into pleasure

We are wired to seek pleasure. We are wired to avoid pain. Everything we are and everything we do is based on these two principles — the decisions we make, the thoughts we think, the actions we take. Freud, one of my fathers, said we may lay it down that pleasure is a movement, a…

radical self love – the key to everything good

For a long time I didn’t love myself. I tried to cover up my lack of self-love by winning awards, being the captain, and by being a good little over-achiever. I was an expert in the fine art of perception management. I was a chameleon. I would change myself to fit into my environment in order…

a strategy for changing beliefs & sparking change

In my work with clients, one of the first things we untangle are limiting beliefs. I’m not worth it. I’m not good enough. I’m not loveable. There’s not enough time, money, energy. I’ll never get out of this place. Life is too hard. I’ll never be happy.  I’m too {old, fat, young, uneducated} I need…

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