find your core values

What do you live for? Wealth? Power? Connection? Relationships? Truth? Reason? Love? Faith? Career? Family? God? Happiness? Fulfillment? Peace? Comfort? Contentment? Integrity? Here’s an exercise to help you get clear on your values.

Take a look at the list of values below and mark the values that resonate with you. As you scan the values list below, you may find that many of the values have little or no significance to you, some may seem negative, and some may call to you.

If you read the value and you feel strongly that it is part of who you are and what’s important to you, chances are pretty good it’s one of your core values.

This values list is merely a guide and it is certainly not exhaustive. Feel free to add unlisted values that resonate with you.

AbundanceAcceptanceAccessibilityAccomplishmentAccuracyAchievementAcknowledgementActiveness

Adaptability

Adoration

Adventure

Affection

Affluence

Aggressiveness

Agility

Alertness

Altruism

Ambition

Amusement

Anticipation

Appreciation

Approachability

Articulacy

Assertiveness

Assurance

Attentiveness

Attractiveness

Audacity

Availability

Awareness

Awe

Balance

Beauty

Being the best

Belonging

Benevolence

Bliss

Boldness

Bravery

Brilliance

Calmness

Camaraderie

Candor

Capability

Care

Carefulness

Celebrity

Certainty

Challenge

Charity

Charm

Chastity

Cheerfulness

Clarity

Cleanliness

Clear-mindedness

Cleverness

Closeness

Comfort

Commitment

Compassion

Completion

Composure

Concentration

Confidence

Conformity

Congruency

Connection

Consciousness

Consistency

Contentment

Continuity

Contribution

Control

Conviction

Conviviality

Coolness

Cooperation

Correctness

Courage

Courtesy

Craftiness

Creativity

Credibility

Cunning

Curiosity

Daring

Decisiveness

Delight

Dependability

Depth

Desire

Determination

Devotion

Dignity

Diligence

Direction

Directness

Discipline

Discovery

Discretion

Diversity

Dreaming

Drive

Duty

Eagerness

Economy

Education

Effectiveness

Efficiency

Elation

Elegance

Empathy

EncouragementEnduranceEnergyEnjoymentEntertainmentEnthusiasmExcellenceExcitement

Exhilaration

Experience

Expertise

Exploration

Expressiveness

Extravagance

Extroversion

Exuberance

Fairness

Faith

Fame

Family

Fascination

Fashion

Fearlessness

Ferocity

Fidelity

Fierceness

Financial independence

Fitness

Flexibility

Flow

Fluency

Focus

Fortitude

Frankness

Freedom

Friendliness

Frugality

Fun

Generosity

Giving

Grace

Gratitude

Gregariousness

Growth

Guidance

Happiness

Harmony

Health

Heart

Helpfulness

Heroism

Holiness

Honesty

Honor

Hopefulness

Hospitality

Humility

Humor

Hygiene

Imagination

Impact

Independence

Ingenuity

Inquisitiveness

Insightfulness

Inspiration

Integrity

Intelligence

Intensity

Intimacy

Introversion

Intuition

Intuitiveness

Inventiveness

Joy

Justice

Keenness

Kindness

Knowledge

Leadership

Learning

Liberation

Liberty

Liveliness

Logic

Longevity

Love

Loyalty

Making a difference

Mastery

Maturity

Meekness

Mellowness

Meticulousness

Mindfulness

Modesty

Motivation

Mysteriousness

Neatness

Nerve

Obedience

Open-mindedness

Openness

Optimism

Order

Organization

Originality

Outrageousness

Peace

Perceptiveness

Perfection

Perseverance

Persistence

PersuasivenessPassionPhilanthropyPlayfulnessPleasantnessPleasurePoisePopularity

Potency

Power

Practicality

Pragmatism

Precision

Preparedness

Presence

Privacy

Proactivity

Professionalism

Prosperity

Prudence

Punctuality

Purity

Realism

Reason

Reasonableness

Recognition

Recreation

Refinement

Reflection

Relaxation

Reliability

Religiousness

Resilience

Resolution

Resolve

Resourcefulness

Respect

Rest

Restraint

Richness

Rigor

Sacredness

Sacrifice

Saintliness

Satisfaction

Security

Self-control

Selflessness

Self-reliance

Sensitivity

Sensuality

Serenity

Service

Sexuality

Sharing

Shrewdness

Significance

Silence

Silliness

Simplicity

Sincerity

Skillfulness

Solidarity

Solitude

Speed

Spirituality

Spontaneity

Spunk

Stability

Stillness

Strength

Structure

Success

Support

Surprise

Sympathy

Synergy

Teamwork

Thankfulness

Thoroughness

Thoughtfulness

Thrift

Tidiness

Timeliness

Traditionalism

Tranquility

Transcendence

Trust

Trustworthiness

Truth

Understanding

Uniqueness

Unity

Usefulness

Valor

Variety

Victory

Vigor

Virtue

Vision

Vitality

Vivacity

Warmth

Watchfulness

Wealth

Willfulness

Willingness

Winning

Wisdom

Wittiness

Wonder

Youthfulness

Zeal

My Ten Values (write them down as you discover them)

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My Ten Values in Order (sort them, with your priority value being number one)

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You might be wondering why it’s important to actively decide what your values are.

Your values are the foundation of what your purpose is built on. If you don’t uncover your values it’s difficult to find your purpose. If you don’t uncover your values you end up with the default set of values (what other people want, parent’s expectations, dominant cultural values), which means other people are choosing what you live for. Unfortunately, this can lead to feeling confused, depressed, unfulfilled, and whole host of other uncomfortable emotions that cause suffering.

Look at your list above, what five values do you want guiding your daily life?

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Ask yourself these questions:

  1. If you were living by these values everyday would you be living your best possible life?
  2. Would you be living your life on purpose?

If you answered yes to these questions, then you’ve found your core values and the foundation to your purpose.  If you answered no, go back through and reflect on which values would allow you to answer yes.

For me, the value that allows me to answer yes is love. I am constantly working on my own personal ability to live my life from a place of love and helping others to do the same. This is my way of assessing whether I am living my best possible life and whether I’ve living on purpose.

Your list of values is your safety net.  If you’re feeling overwhelmed or confused about how to live your life, you can fall back on your values. Whenever you encounter a situation that your unsure how to handle, ask yourself, “if I react this way, am I living in alignment with my values?”  If the answer is no, I humbly suggest that you find another reaction. By continuing to question yourself according to your values you will find that soon, very soon indeed, you will be living your life’s purpose in every moment of everyday.

I love hearing from you, post a comment below and let me know what your core values are!

Lots of love,

 
  • RAD

    Gemma,
    Your video interested me, so I came here and spent some time reading over the words.. only 7 really stood out for me when I could not move on from that word.

    1. Respect
    2. Family
    3. Ambition
    4. Logic
    5. Encouragement
    6. Imagination
    7. Integrity

    Thank you for allowing me some Me Time as I read through these words, understood a little more about myself as well as have the opportunity to ask myself more indepth questions about myself.
    Thank you!
    Robin

  • Hi Robin,

    Thanks so much for stopping by!

    I'm really happy that you were able to take some 'me time' and that you found the exercise helpful. I'm the same as you…I connected with seven too. Mine were.
    1. Love
    2. Learning
    3. Inspiration
    4. Philanthropy
    5. Excellence
    6. Making a difference
    7. Fun

    I'm looking forward to seeing you again!

    Lots of love,
    gem

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