5 ways to boost your energy

There are soulful goals you want to achieve, places you want to explore, and passions you want to pursue. In order to live a life you love, you must do more of what you love.

But, wait! Who has the time? I get it, life can be crazy.

Living by your sacred yes and honouring no will help you create more time.

But really, I think the bigger issue is energy. Maybe you don’t need more time, maybe you just need more energy.

Here are five ways to boost your energy so you can step more fully into your great life.

Be mindful

Practicing mindfulness will help you avoid getting lost in stories of the past and wound in anticipation of the future. Living in the past or the future for too long zaps energy and can lead to depression and anxiety.

Play with this practice to bring you into a state of mindfulness.

  1. Notice three things you see and say them out loud.
  2. Notice two things you hear and say them out loud.
  3. Notice one things you smell and say it out loud.
  4. Now, take deep three breaths and focus on the sensation of your breath moving through your lungs.
  5. Repeat the process until you settle into the present.

More mindfulness means more energy.

Spend time in nature

Nature is energizing and healing. By soaking up the sun you’re welcoming a natural dose of Vitamin D, serotonin, and melatonin into your cells.

Feeling depressed? Difficulty focusing? Struggling with weight? Low energy? You might be experiencing Nature Deficit Disorder.

The solution?
Go outside.
Get grounded.
Develop an intimate relationship with your body

Every body is different. What works for my body, might not work for yours. Despite the plethora of gurus shouting about what to eat and how to exercise, only you can know what your body truly needs. Notice what makes you feel light, energized, inspired, and nourished.

Does your body feel rested and refreshed after six hours of sleep, or do you need eight?

Does your soul feel energized when you dive into the pool and fall into the hypnotic rythmn of your stroke or does it want to bump and grind in a pole fitness class?

How about breakfast? Notice what your body feels like after you enjoy a hearty breakfast compared to sipping green juice and watching the sunrise.

Does coffee make you anxious?

Does sugar make you crazy?

Noticing what nourishes your body will boost your energy and your health.

Consciously create rituals

How we live each day is primarily a result of unconscious ways of being and subconscious rituals – the food we eat, the way we talk to our children, whether we pour ourselves a drink at the end of the day or go for a run, how we spend our money, the way we deal with emails, how we feel in relationship, what we think when we look at ourselves in the mirror. More than 40% of the actions we take are based on subconscious rituals.

What kinds of rituals will add energy to your life?

A series of sun salutations to greet the morning? Using half of your lunch break to go for a walk? Greeting your kids enthusiastically by exclaiming I’m so happy to see you! Drinking a glass of warm water with lemon every morning? Lighting a candle and slipping into a hot bath at the end of the day?

Rituals are used all over the world, by all kinds of people, in all kinds of ways. While there’s tremendous variety in the types of rituals performed, they all have one thing in common — people who perform rituals report feeling better about their lives.


Try new things – routines, habits, schedules, driving routes, meditation practices, book genres, foods, entertainment, music, fitness classes, words, ways of relating, clothing styles.

Just because you’re trying something new doesn’t mean you need to commit to it. Exploring different options will help you deepen your self-awareness.

What do you like?
What do you dislike?
What brings you pleasure?
What would you rather avoid?

Make it playful – explore one new thing each week.

Curiosity, exploration, and self awareness can add energy to your life.

Your great life is waiting for you.
Boosting your energy will help you live it fully.

4 good things about pain

Pain is inevitable.

In the past, I constructed my life to avoid pain at all costs. Through distraction, chronic busyness, and various types of numbing I managed to successfully navigate away from pain, but in the process I ended up avoiding life.

I would try to predict the future and if there was a possibility of getting hurt I’d squirm away. Never letting true vulnerability settle in, I defaulted to what was safe, predictable, and familiar.

On my twenty-fifth birthday I had an awakening moment and I understood the truth — in trying to avoid pain, I allowed fear rule my life.

Even though I know better now, there are still times I try to interfere with the unfolding of life, especially if pain is possible.

These four points remind me to live, and love, fully even if pain is inevitable.


Your best work will often come from your most painful moments. Dance, write, sing, paint, photograph, spin, weave, craft. When you create from the darkness your creative expression is rich and dynamic.


When we express our pain we are more able to connect with others. In sharing our bumps, bruises, hurts and wounds we feel less alone. We all have a story and we have all been though pain; our experience of pain and what we decide to do with it is unique, interesting, and connective. Sharing our stories remind us of the truth, we are all in this together.


Illness reminds us to appreciate health. Blackouts help us to appreciate electricity. Drinking dirty water helps us to appreciate having clean water to drink. Once we have navigated through pain, we are more able to appreciate how good it feels to live and love once the pain has passed.


Your pain can open you into knowing who you are and how you want to live. My clients share stories of how their pain shaped their self-awareness, forced them to connect to their intuition, deepened their trust in themselves, developed their character, gave them the courage to make a change, opened them up to a new way of living, and blossomed their sense of resilience.

When we try to avoid the pain of life we become susceptible to depression, anxiety, fear, living on autopilot, and addiction {drugs, food, sex, shopping}.

The more you allow yourself to fully live, knowing pain is part of the gig, the more free you are to live a life you love.

Get your heart broken.
Make the call.
Take the risk.
Try anyway.
Fall down.
Be judged.
Start it.
End it.


What if the pain of your life ends up becoming the best part of the story?

8 questions for navigating the unconscious

Our unconscious mind holds a great deal of power over us.

It makes decisions on our behalf, it guides our thought patterns and emotional reactions and it creates the filters we see the world through.

Jung said it best, until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.

I have come to honor and respect the unconscious.

If we were free from the influence of the unconscious mind, life would work out as we planned. We’d make appropriate decisions, engage in proactive behaviors and the life we dream of would easily become reality.

Unconscious patterns rule us.

When you are in a moment of suffering, self-sabotage, or conflict ask yourself,

How is this a pattern?
What does it remind me of?
What reactions are on auto-pilot?
How is this connected to my history?
What role am I playing in my drama?
How am I reflexively functioning in the world?
What patterns do I engage in that undermine my best interests?

Ask conscious questions, uncover conscious answers.

The questions you ask and the answers you discover will define the story of your life.

May these questions bring you closer to healing the past, loving the present, and lighting up the future.

10 books that could deepen how you love

After more than a decade of  helping hundreds of clients love themselves and their lives you could say that Love is my quest.

The most important lesson I have learned is to choose love over fear. Again and again.

The rules of love and fear can be found in a tangle of a hundred billion brain cells and amongst complicated electrical currents and signals. Love emanates from the brain, but its reach extends further. Love and fear influence all human thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

The world is full of people who struggle with living from love over fear. I was one of them and I have worked with many others. Living a life we love depends upon resolving the struggle between love and fear as quickly as possible. Whether we live in a state of love or a state of fear changes everything. Love and fear make us who we are and create who we become.

Here are ten books that could deepen how you love yourself, others and your life.

jpeg-1Forty Rules of Love

“Every true love and friendship is a story of unexpected transformation. If we are the same person before and after we loved, that means we have not loved enough.”



jpeg-1What Do Women Want

“Women’s desire—its inherent range and innate power—is an underestimated and constrained force.”



jpeg-1Anam Cara

“If you send out goodness from yourself, or if you share that which is happy or good within you, it will all come back to you multiplied ten thousand times. In the kingdom of love there is no competition; there is no possessiveness or control. The more love you give away, the more love you will have.”


jpeg-1Getting The Love You Want

“You can’t have a great relationship unless it’s emotionally safe; it has to be predictable and reliable. You need to be able to count on the fact that when you’re around your partner you’re not going to get hurt or be criticized, put down, or shut out.”


jpeg-1Coming Home To Myself

“Healing depends on listening with the inner ear – stopping the incessant blather, and listening. Fear keeps us chattering – fear that wells up from the past, fear of blurting out what we really fear, fear of future repercussions. It is our very fear of the future that distorts the now that could lead to a different future if we dared to be whole in the present.”

jpeg-2House of Belonging
“Time to go into the dark where the night has eyes to recognize its own. There you can be sure you are not beyond love. The dark will be your womb tonight. The night will give you a horizon further than you can see. You must learn one thing. The world was made to be free in. Give up on all other worlds except the one to which you belong. Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet confinement of your aloneness to learn anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you. ”

jpeg-1The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

“In the Love Lab, the relationships that were happy, the ratio was 20:1 of positive to negative expressions when simply conversing. A relationship is a contract of mutual nurturance. Relationships have to be a rich climate of positivity.”


jpeg-1Book of Hours

“I live my life in growing orbits which move out over this wondrous world, I am circling around God, around ancient towers and I have been circling for a thousand years. And I still don’t know if I am an eagle or a storm or a great song.”



jpeg-4The Wisdom of No Escape And the Path of Loving-Kindness

“A much more interesting, kind, adventurous, and joyful approach to life is to begin to develop curiosity, not caring whether the object of our inquisitiveness is bitter or sweet.”



jpeg-3Silent, Sacred, Holy, Deepening Heart
Hurrying toward nothing
the only thing worth answering is Love.
Happening into Loving
the only thing worth being
is Love
is Love
is Love.



This is the final post in the summertime book love series. Click around here to find even more great books ::

classic books for deepening how you live, heal, create & love
10 books that could deepen how you live
6 books that could deepen how you heal
7 books that could deepen how you create


With love. Always. Forever.






7 books that could deepen how you create

Summertime is my time to create.

I see fewer clients, travel less, and reduce my speaking gigs. I spend more time communing with nature and connecting with my soul-family.

This summer, my creative spirit has been devoted to writing a book. Today, I’m writing to you from a place my heart will always call home. British Columbia.

In this space, I am inspired to share with you seven books that could deepen how you create.

This is part four of a five part post on books that have changed how I live, heal, create and love.

Part one :: classic books for deepening how you live, heal, create & love
Part two :: 10 books that could deepen how you live. 
Part three :: 6 books that could deepen how you heal


jpegMade to Stick
“The stars of stickiness are the students who made their case by telling stories, or by tapping into emotion, or by stressing a single point rather than ten.”




jpegArt of Non-Conformity
“The concept of deferred gratification, or sacrificing now to save for the future, can be helpful in setting aside money in a retirement account for old age. It can also serve as an effective rationalization for life avoidance.”



jpegSacred Economics
“Ultimately, work on self is inseperable from work in the world. Each mirrors the other; each is a vehicle for the other. When we change ourselves, our values and actions change as well. When we do work in the world, internal issues arise that we must face or be rendered ineffective.”



jpegSteal Like An Artist
“You don’t get to pick your family, but you can pick your teachers and you can pick your friends and you can pick the music you listen to and you can pick the books you read and you can pick the movies you see. You are, in fact, a mashup of what you choose to let into your life. You are the sum of your influences. The German writer Goethe said, “We are shaped and fashioned by what we love.”
jpeg-1Succulent Wild Woman
“Most things are out of our control. We are surrounded by danger, frustration, grief, and insanity as well as love, hope, ecstasy, and wonder. Being fully human is an exercise in humility, suffering, grace, and great humor. Things and people all around us die, get broken, or are lost. There is no safety or guarantees. The way to accomplish the assignment of truly living is to engage fully, richly, and deeply in the living of your dreams. We are made to dream and to live those dreams.”
jpegLet your Life Speak: Listening To The Voice of Vocation
“We must come together in ways that respect the solitude of the soul that avoid the unconscious violence we do when we try to save each other that evoke our capacity to hold another life without dishonoring its mystery never trying to coerce the other into meeting our own needs.”



jpegThe War of Art: Break Through The Blocks and Win Your Creative Battles
“The most pernicious aspect of procrastination is that it can become a habit. We don’t just put off our lives today; we put them off till our deathbed. Never forget: This very moment, we can change our lives. There never was a moment, and never will be, when we are without the power to alter our destiny. This second we can turn the tables on Resistance. This second, we can sit down and do our work.”


Up next, the final post in this series, 10 books that could deepen how you love.

Until next time, may your creative spirit be liberated,







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