Family Constellations allow us to break messy & sticky patterns of suffering so that we can live healthier, happier, and more fulfilled lives.
Bert Hellinger (a crazy smart & deeply intuitive fella) is the founder of this work. He studied and treated families for more than 50 years and he observed that many of us unconsciously “take on” destructive familial patterns of anxiety, depression, anger, guilt, aloneness, alcoholism and even illness as a way of “belonging” in our families. He witnessed how the bond of love can cause a child to sacrifice her own best interest in an attempt to ease the suffering of a parent or other family member.
Family Constellations is a way of discovering underlying family bonds and forces that have been carried unconsciously over several generations and, as a result, generations of suffering & unhappiness can be shifted.
In North America, Mark Woylnn is the guy to work with & learn from. He travels around the continent offering Family Constellations workshops & training. I’m trained by him & I’m a really big fan of his work.
His depth of knowledge and ability to see what needs to be seen is remarkable. Like my friend, Kari says, “he’s scary smart”.
Mark Woylnn, recently shared this on his Facebook page, “the emotional history you share with your family began even before you were conceived. When your grandmother was five months pregnant with your mother, the egg that will eventually become you was already present in your mother’s womb. That means you, your mother and your grandmother all shared the same biological environment. Whatever your grandmother experienced—her traumas, her sadness, her grief—can become your emotional inheritance.”
Check out this case study, Mark shared with me, to get a sense of what he’s talking about ::
Case #3: Sandra, 59-years-old, married, two grown children
Issue: Sandra was anxious and depressed. She had been taking heavy doses of anti-depressants for several years. Twice she had attempted suicide. Each attempt came approximately 6 months after moving into a new home.
Family History: When Sandra was two, her 6-year-old brother was killed by a drunk driver as he stepped off the school bus. This tragedy occurred six months after her family had moved into their new home.
Resolution: Sandra had never made the connection. In the session, she understood how her older brother’s death had influenced her life. She felt that the best way to honor him was not to live depressed and die like him, but to live fully and do something good in his honor. She had an image of him being proud of her. After the session, her depression lifted. Sandra has remained depression-free.
Comments: Many times, a tragic event in our family affects the way we react to the stressors in our lives. If an older sibling suffers or dies young, a younger sibling can struggle, unconscious of the connection.
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There’s a Family Constellations workshop in Calgary on July 28th and 29th 2012. I’m going to be there and if this work speaks to your heart, I’d love to see you there. Send me a note & I’ll send you the details.
Love & Respect,