After more than a decade of  helping hundreds of clients love themselves and their lives you could say that Love is my quest.

The most important lesson I have learned is to choose love over fear. Again and again.

The rules of love and fear can be found in a tangle of a hundred billion brain cells and amongst complicated electrical currents and signals. Love emanates from the brain, but its reach extends further. Love and fear influence all human thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

The world is full of people who struggle with living from love over fear. I was one of them and I have worked with many others. Living a life we love depends upon resolving the struggle between love and fear as quickly as possible. Whether we live in a state of love or a state of fear changes everything. Love and fear make us who we are and create who we become.

Here are ten books that could deepen how you love yourself, others and your life.

jpeg-1Forty Rules of Love

“Every true love and friendship is a story of unexpected transformation. If we are the same person before and after we loved, that means we have not loved enough.”



jpeg-1What Do Women Want

“Women’s desire—its inherent range and innate power—is an underestimated and constrained force.”



jpeg-1Anam Cara

“If you send out goodness from yourself, or if you share that which is happy or good within you, it will all come back to you multiplied ten thousand times. In the kingdom of love there is no competition; there is no possessiveness or control. The more love you give away, the more love you will have.”


jpeg-1Getting The Love You Want

“You can’t have a great relationship unless it’s emotionally safe; it has to be predictable and reliable. You need to be able to count on the fact that when you’re around your partner you’re not going to get hurt or be criticized, put down, or shut out.”


jpeg-1Coming Home To Myself

“Healing depends on listening with the inner ear – stopping the incessant blather, and listening. Fear keeps us chattering – fear that wells up from the past, fear of blurting out what we really fear, fear of future repercussions. It is our very fear of the future that distorts the now that could lead to a different future if we dared to be whole in the present.”

jpeg-2House of Belonging
“Time to go into the dark where the night has eyes to recognize its own. There you can be sure you are not beyond love. The dark will be your womb tonight. The night will give you a horizon further than you can see. You must learn one thing. The world was made to be free in. Give up on all other worlds except the one to which you belong. Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet confinement of your aloneness to learn anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you. ”

jpeg-1The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

“In the Love Lab, the relationships that were happy, the ratio was 20:1 of positive to negative expressions when simply conversing. A relationship is a contract of mutual nurturance. Relationships have to be a rich climate of positivity.”


jpeg-1Book of Hours

“I live my life in growing orbits which move out over this wondrous world, I am circling around God, around ancient towers and I have been circling for a thousand years. And I still don’t know if I am an eagle or a storm or a great song.”



jpeg-4The Wisdom of No Escape And the Path of Loving-Kindness

“A much more interesting, kind, adventurous, and joyful approach to life is to begin to develop curiosity, not caring whether the object of our inquisitiveness is bitter or sweet.”



jpeg-3Silent, Sacred, Holy, Deepening Heart
Hurrying toward nothing
the only thing worth answering is Love.
Happening into Loving
the only thing worth being
is Love
is Love
is Love.



This is the final post in the summertime book love series. Click around here to find even more great books ::

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With love. Always. Forever.