Rewind seven years :: I began to see how much my life was governed by fear. The whole show—cast, crew, & stage—was built upon the perilous foundation of fear.

I thought it all had to be destroyed.

So that’s what I did. Relationships ended, pets were adopted, friendships disintegrated, assets were divided, jobs were left, and my sense of self was shattered.

I peered intently at the foundation, made some changes, and rebuilt.

Maybe it had to happen that way for that situation; but now I know there’s a better process.

I find myself looking at the places in my life where fear has crept in again, and because I know better, I can do better.

I’m looking at fear for what it is, I’m acknowledging what it’s trying to do, and I’m seeing a less devastating way out of it.

I have the freedom to make choices that are not based in fear. I can reclaim the territory that fear took over without destroying everything. I can uncover the coping strategies that I created in order to manage the fear, and I can choose not to use them anymore.

I’m not going to lie; sometimes it’s an unpleasant experience. But I know it’s a worthy pursuit because it’s the only way to liberation and love.